Marriage is not the ultimate purpose of human life. It’s merely an option.
I’ve heard too many men and women, complain, fret and become anxious as they find themselves single after a certain age. The idea that it takes a significant other to COMPLETE a man or woman, is not just outrageous, but sad. The only thing that completes one’s soul is the Holy Spirit of God(<– that one is for the believer). If you cannot be complete and whole as single individual, you will never be happy in a relationship. Therefore enjoy being single. The truth is, singleness is the biggest blessing you can ever have, and the perfect time to live out His will to the fullest, without any distractions. If you desire marriage, by all means, pray about it, pray for and wait for the right man or woman. But do not just settle for anyone who gets dumped on your path.
If marriage was God’s will and purpose for every person, then poor Mother Teresa didn’t live out her calling. Yet Mother Teresa, single and all, did more for world and took care of more children in the world, than any of us ever will. Do you think she could have had the same impact if she had a husband and children of her own?
A wedding, is not an achievement, it’s an occasion. It doesn’t take rocket science or any real talent or intelligence to get married. What follows a wedding is a lot of hard, hard, hard work.
Jesus said, “At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.” Matthew 22:30
He also said,”Your Kingdom come on earth as it is in heaven.”
Don’t let yourself come to point where the only thing worth knowing about you, is the man or woman you’re with. You, alone, have an identity and purpose. Find it, fulfill it, and if marriage was a part of the journey then embrace it. Otherwise, know and understand that marriage is not vital to survival, success, or happiness.
R. A. Douglas
February 5, 2018.